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4.46 from 1654 votes
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Sex in a Pan

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by: Joanna Cismaru
06.12.20

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This Sex in a Pan has a crazy name for a dessert, but it’s one of the best desserts you’ll ever have, it’s mostly a pudding dessert with a crunchy pecan bottom crust.

 slice of Sex in a Pan on a plate

Over 5 years ago I shared this amazing dessert with you and you guys loved it! It’s one of my most popular recipes on Jo Cooks and there’s a reason for that. It’s incredible, it’s decadent and luscious.

I thought it’s the perfect time to share this with you again with some updated pictures and a video. With Valentine’s day only a couple days away, I think this dessert will be spot on for that special day with a name like sex in a pan.

Why Is It Called Sex In A Pan?

The name itself is hilarious for a dessert, and hundreds of you have commented on here telling me all the other names that this pudding dessert goes by. I think it’s called sex in a pan because it’s six layers and from six layers in a pan it got to sex in a pan.

 Sex in a Pan in a glass dish cut into slices

A long time ago, before I was married, my friend came over on a weekend and made this dessert for me. I had no idea what it was, but she promised me I was going to love it so we made it.

We did not come up with the name, that is the name that it was known to her and her mom had been making it for her for as long as she could remember. I think this dessert has really been around for decades but it’s still popular, not because of its name but because it really is incredible.

That first day we made this dessert I fell in love with it. I had never had anything like it before. It was so easy to make and so good.

What Is Sex In A Pan?

Sex in a pan is a layered dessert. The bottom layer is the crust made with pecans, flour and butter. The next layer is a layer of cream cheese sweetened with powdered sugar and made fluffier with whipped cream. Then you have a layer of chocolate pudding, then another layer of vanilla pudding and top it off with whipping cream and then lastly you sprinkle it with chocolate. Does that not sound good?

 Sex in a Pan slice on a plate

And don’t worry about it looking perfect with perfect layers, this dessert is not about that. It will look sloppy with all the pudding and whipped cream layers. Nobody will care about how it looks like once they take a bite. It really is love at first bite.

I just had to share this wonderful dessert with you again because every single time I make it people fall in love with it and so many of them tell me it’s the best dessert they’ve ever had. Trust me, that’s the best compliment you can get for such a simple dessert. Have you guys had this before? Isn’t it to die for?

 Sex in a Pan slice on a plate

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Sex in a Pan

4.46 from 1654 votes
Prep: 45 mins
Cook: 20 mins
Total: 1 hr 5 mins
Author: Joanna Cismaru
Serves: 12
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Sex in a Pan – crazy name for a dessert, but it’s one of the best desserts you’ll ever have, it’s mostly a pudding dessert with a crunchy pecan bottom crust.

Ingredients

Crust

  • 1 cup pecans chopped
  • 3 tablespoon granulated sugar
  • ½ cup unsalted butter melted
  • 1 cup all-purpose flour

Cream cheese layer

  • 8 ounce cream cheese
  • 1 cup powdered sugar also known as icing sugar or confectioner's sugar, use 1/2 cup for less sweetness
  • 1 cup cool whip or whipped cream

Vanilla pudding

  • 5.1 ounce instant vanilla pudding
  • 2 cups milk

Chocolate Pudding

  • 5.1 ounce instant chocolate pudding
  • 2 cups milk

Toppings

  • 2 cups cool whip or whipped cream
  • shaved chocolate optional
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Instructions

  • Preheat oven to 350 F degrees.
  • Spray a 9×13 inch baking dish with cooking spray.
  • In a mixer mix all the crust ingredients together and press the mixture into the prepared baking dish.
  • Bake it for about 20 minutes.
  • Prepare the vanilla pudding as per the instructions on the package. As noted I used 2 cups of milk instead of the 3 cups on the package instructions to get a firmer pudding. 
  • Prepare the chocolate pudding as per the instructions on the package. As noted I used 2 cups of milk instead of the 3 cups on the package instructions to get a firmer pudding.
  • In a mixer add the cream cheese, powdered sugar and the cup of whipped cream. Mix until light and fluffy.
  • Let the crust cool. Spread the cream cheese mixture over the crust evenly. Spread the vanilla pudding over the cream cheese layer, then the chocolate pudding. Spread the whipped cream as the last layer then top with shaved chocolate if preferred.
  • Refrigerate for a couple hours until it sets before serving.

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Recipe Notes

  1. I used 2 cups of milk for my pudding, because I wanted a firmer pudding for the layers here, but feel free to use 3 cups of milk just as the instructions say.
  2. Please keep in mind that nutritional information is a rough estimate and can vary greatly based on products used.
 

Nutrition Information:

Serving: 1sliceCalories: 446kcal (22%)Carbohydrates: 53g (18%)Protein: 6g (12%)Fat: 24g (37%)Saturated Fat: 11g (69%)Cholesterol: 52mg (17%)Sodium: 359mg (16%)Potassium: 227mg (6%)Fiber: 1g (4%)Sugar: 38g (42%)Vitamin A: 660IU (13%)Vitamin C: 0.1mgCalcium: 142mg (14%)Iron: 0.9mg (5%)
Course:Dessert
Cuisine:American
Keyword:pudding dessert, sex in a pan, sex in a pan recipe
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Originally Shared March 2012:
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  1. Marian J Piehler says

    May 18, 2021 at 5:52 pm

    Fabulous easy dessert – and makes up just as delicious using sugar free puddings, low fat CoolWhip and pre-prepared graham cracker crust! Never any leftovers.

    Reply
    • Jo Cooks Team AMJ says

      May 19, 2021 at 8:58 am

      That’s wonderful! So glad you enjoyed it!

      Reply
  2. Nick says

    April 15, 2021 at 12:28 pm

    Hi Jo! Greatly looking forward to this recipe. Do you feel like it would still work well if I used chocolate/vanilla mousse or custard in lieu of pudding? Just curious 🙂

    Reply
    • Joanna Cismaru says

      April 15, 2021 at 1:33 pm

      Oh, that sounds great actually. This dessert is very versatile, so mousse would be wonderful.

      Reply
  3. Ursila says

    March 15, 2021 at 3:49 pm

    Hi Jo, can I make this the day before considering it has to set for a couple of hours, or is it best made for on the day?

    Reply
    • Joanna Cismaru says

      March 15, 2021 at 4:41 pm

      You can definitely make it the day before. 🙂

      Reply
  4. Swapna says

    March 13, 2021 at 4:08 pm

    5 stars
    I loved this recipe . Its so easy and tasty

    Reply
  5. Darwin Wark says

    March 1, 2021 at 7:51 pm

    5 stars
    I doubled the Cream Cheese filling.
    Very nice recipe.

    Reply
  6. Patti says

    February 27, 2021 at 9:38 am

    5 stars
    Easy to make and delicious

    Reply
  7. Larry Williams says

    February 21, 2021 at 8:37 pm

    I made this yesterday. Halved the icing sugar though. Tested very good.

    Reply
  8. Mary says

    February 19, 2021 at 3:47 pm

    5 stars
    My favorite summertime dessert. I’ve made it for at least 40 years. Given to me by a dear friend in Arkansas and she called it Four layer dessert.

    Reply
  9. Carol says

    February 19, 2021 at 10:21 am

    4 stars
    This recipe is easily made Keto friendly! Thanks so much.

    Reply
    • Jo Cooks Team says

      February 19, 2021 at 10:23 am

      Glad you liked it!

      Reply
  10. Lori says

    February 18, 2021 at 4:41 pm

    Could I use Honey maid crumbs instead of pecans?

    Reply
    • Jo Cooks Team says

      February 18, 2021 at 4:50 pm

      Certainly!

      Reply
  11. John doe says

    February 13, 2021 at 12:50 am

    I too loved this recipe as is and same for the same best sex I’ve had these days anyways 😉

    Reply
  12. Ang says

    February 3, 2021 at 5:29 pm

    Can this be frozen? And what would the thawing instructions be?

    Reply
    • Joanna Cismaru says

      February 3, 2021 at 5:31 pm

      Absolutely! Just thaw in the fridge overnight.

      Reply
  13. Keith says

    January 19, 2021 at 9:14 pm

    Can it be made with graham crackers instead of pecans?

    Reply
    • Jo Cooks Team says

      January 20, 2021 at 9:24 am

      Sure can!!

      Reply
  14. EB says

    January 15, 2021 at 5:54 pm

    5 stars
    This recipe is very good! I made it for Christmas dessert and It received many compliments for how simple it is. I’m currently making it again for a friend who just had her wisdom teeth out.

    Reply
  15. Toc7 says

    January 5, 2021 at 10:40 am

    What is the original name for this? I’m not calling it “Sex in the Pan”.

    Reply
    • Jo Cooks Team says

      January 5, 2021 at 10:56 am

      It goes by many other names, Sex In A Pan, Better Than Robert Redford…etc.

      Reply
    • Plewis says

      January 25, 2021 at 1:20 pm

      My family always called this Chocolate Delight. lol. I don’t think I could call it Sex in the Pan either. LOL

      Reply
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