Sex in a Pan

 Sex in a Pan – crazy name for a dessert, but it’s one of the best desserts you’ll ever have, it’s mostly a pudding dessert with a crunchy pecan bottom crust.


Don’t laugh at the name of this dessert! OK, you can laugh, it is funny. I have no idea why it’s called sex in a pan, maybe because it’s so good. I remember a long time ago, before I was married, and used to live on my own, one weekend my friend came over and she introduced me to this dessert. I had no idea what it was, but she promised me I was going to love it so we made it. We did not come up with the name, that is the name that it was known to her and her mom had been making it for her for as long as she could remember. I know a lot of readers have commented on the name of this dessert, so I know it goes under many different names, apparently it just depends where you’re from.

Oh my God, it was unbelievable.

I was in love, I had never had anything like it before. Now I don’t know how popular this dessert is, or if it’s a dessert for children or what, because I don’t really care. I’m an adult and I like it. The bottom layer is the crust made with pecans and flour and butter, the next layer is a layer of cream cheese sweetened with powdered sugar and made fluffier with whipping cream. Then you have a layer of chocolate pudding, then another layer of vanilla pudding and top it off with whipping cream and sprinkled with chocolate. Does that not sound good?

Here’s what the layers look like.


I just had to share this wonderful dessert with you. Have you guys had this before? Isn’t it to die for?

Update: Since I originally wrote this post, I’ve made sex in a pan numerous time since it’s a favorite at my house. In the original picture you can’t really see the vanilla pudding layer, so here’s an updated picture of it and you can see the layers more defined. 


4.9 from 9 reviews
Sex in a Pan
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Serves: 10 servings
  • 1 cup pecans, chopped
  • 3 tbsp white sugar
  • ½ cup butter
  • 1 cup flour
Cream cheese layer
  • 1 8 oz package cream cheese
  • 1 cup powdered sugar (use ½ cup for less sweetness)
  • 1 cup whipped cream or cool whip
Vanilla pudding
Chocolate Pudding
Last layer
  • 2 cups whipped cream or cool whip
  • shaved chocolate
  1. Preheat oven to 350 F degrees.
  2. Spray a 9x13 inch baking dish with cooking spray.
  3. In a mixer mix all the crust ingredients together and press the mixture into the prepared baking dish.
  4. Bake it for about 20 minutes.
  5. Prepare the vanilla pudding as per the instructions on the package.
  6. Prepare the chocolate pudding as per the instructions on the package.
  7. In a mixer add the cream cheese, powdered sugar and the cup of whipped cream. Mix until light and fluffy.
  8. Let the crust cool. Spread the cream cheese mixture over the crust evenly. Spread the chocolate pudding over the cream cheese, then the vanilla pudding. Top with the whipped cream and sprinkle with the chocolate.
  9. Refrigerate for a couple hours so that it sets.


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  1. Sisi says

    OMG! I’ve been looking for this recipe for ages because I lost the one I was given over 10 years ago. Everytime I go to NYC my niece would beg me to make it. I never did because I didn’t want to mess up its deliciousness. I’m making this for the holidays and my niece will be mad because she’s not here to enjoy it.

  2. cindy says

    I substituted the pecans with chocolate graham crackers and it was delicious. I also crumbled the graham crackers for the topping instead of the shaved chocolate. It’s to die for.

  3. Jaime says

    We Have this every Christmas, but use only French vanilla pudding and put more chopped pecans in that, and sprinkle chopped pecans on the top layer of whipped cream instead of chocolate.

  4. Carolyn Wells says

    I have made this recipe for years, but I use Mascarpone cheese instead off cream cheese. That gives it a much richer flavor. I make it at Christmas time and use pistachio pudding for the festive green color.

  5. Cindy says

    This has been a favorite recipe of mine since the early 80’s! But I like to use all chocolate pudding, omitting the vanilla. Try substituting Lemon pudding for a different flavor!!

  6. Traci Cowan says

    we have never called it that but have made it with butterscotch pudding and topped it with crushed heath bars!! Delicious!!

    • Pam O. says

      This recipe has always been called Sex in a Pan ,because it is so delicious and decadent, and not Six in a Pan because it has six layers. In actual fact, it only has five layers in total.

  7. Penny Campbell says

    I use the same recipe but use 1 small box chocolate instant pudding and 1 small box butterscotch instant pudding…….mix both dry pudding powders together with the 3 cups milk. Using a mixer, mix until it starts to get thick then pour over the cream cheese layer. It will finish thickening as sets. It’s better than you can imagine.

  8. Linda Barnes says

    Remember when I made this for my Grandmother years ago when I went to visit her just before she past away. She said honey I can’t ever remember having sex that was this good. We all really got a kick out of that.

  9. nikki says

    Planning on making this for thanksgiving tomorrow. I heard alot of people using butterscotch pudding and I want to give it a go, should I be using the same amount as the vanilla and chocolate ones?

  10. Jen says

    Tasty but didn’t even have enough “dough” to cover the bottom of the 9×13…did anyone else have this problem or did I do something wrong?

  11. says

    I just made it and followed exact amounts, there is no space left for the last layer of 2 cups whipping cream! I am using a 13*9 pyrex! What could have went wrong? I am doing it for tomorrows dinner party! Have to spread the chocolate on the chocolate pudding!

    • Carol C says

      Gin, I’m sure you figured it out…next time, use a deeper pan, or spread a thinner layer of CoolWhip. OR just pile it on, it’s ok that it comes over the edge of the dish, just don’t spread it too closely to the edges.

  12. Terra says

    My family has made a similar dessert for years. When I would bring it to work coworkers would call it “Better Than Sex”. My aunt calls it the “Robert Redford Dessert” lol. We use a walnut crust and we only do one flavor of pudding but we’ve made it with many different flavors. My dad’s favorite is coconut cream.

  13. Mary says

    Hi! I am making this for Thanksgiving, I can’t wait! I would just like to verify: you use MELTED butter, correct? Thanks!

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