Sex in a Pan

 Sex in a Pan – crazy name for a dessert, but it’s one of the best desserts you’ll ever have, it’s mostly a pudding dessert with a crunchy pecan bottom crust.


Don’t laugh at the name of this dessert! OK, you can laugh, it is funny. I have no idea why it’s called sex in a pan, maybe because it’s so good. I remember a long time ago, before I was married, and used to live on my own, one weekend my friend came over and she introduced me to this dessert. I had no idea what it was, but she promised me I was going to love it so we made it. We did not come up with the name, that is the name that it was known to her and her mom had been making it for her for as long as she could remember. I know a lot of readers have commented on the name of this dessert, so I know it goes under many different names, apparently it just depends where you’re from.

Oh my God, it was unbelievable.

I was in love, I had never had anything like it before. Now I don’t know how popular this dessert is, or if it’s a dessert for children or what, because I don’t really care. I’m an adult and I like it. The bottom layer is the crust made with pecans and flour and butter, the next layer is a layer of cream cheese sweetened with powdered sugar and made fluffier with whipping cream. Then you have a layer of chocolate pudding, then another layer of vanilla pudding and top it off with whipping cream and sprinkled with chocolate. Does that not sound good?

Here’s what the layers look like.


I just had to share this wonderful dessert with you. Have you guys had this before? Isn’t it to die for?

Update: Since I originally wrote this post, I’ve made sex in a pan numerous time since it’s a favorite at my house. In the original picture you can’t really see the vanilla pudding layer, so here’s an updated picture of it and you can see the layers more defined. 


4.9 from 13 reviews
Sex in a Pan
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Serves: 10 servings
  • 1 cup pecans, chopped
  • 3 tbsp white sugar
  • ½ cup butter
  • 1 cup flour
Cream cheese layer
  • 1 8 oz package cream cheese
  • 1 cup powdered sugar (use ½ cup for less sweetness)
  • 1 cup whipped cream or cool whip
Vanilla pudding
Chocolate Pudding
Last layer
  • 2 cups whipped cream or cool whip
  • shaved chocolate
  1. Preheat oven to 350 F degrees.
  2. Spray a 9x13 inch baking dish with cooking spray.
  3. In a mixer mix all the crust ingredients together and press the mixture into the prepared baking dish.
  4. Bake it for about 20 minutes.
  5. Prepare the vanilla pudding as per the instructions on the package.
  6. Prepare the chocolate pudding as per the instructions on the package.
  7. In a mixer add the cream cheese, powdered sugar and the cup of whipped cream. Mix until light and fluffy.
  8. Let the crust cool. Spread the cream cheese mixture over the crust evenly. Spread the chocolate pudding over the cream cheese, then the vanilla pudding. Top with the whipped cream and sprinkle with the chocolate.
  9. Refrigerate for a couple hours so that it sets.



  1. Lenoria says

    The first time I had this dessert my brother made it and he is such a joker I thought he was kidding about the name – but after I ate it I could relate! He used one layer of butterscotch pudding and one layer or chocolate pudding and it was fantastic! I may have to make one tomorrow because it is too late tonight to go out and get all the stuff I need for it but my mouth is watering.

  2. Brooke says

    I’m planning on making this for our anniversary, but my fiancee can’t have nuts. I’m thinking of doing a cookie dough batter for the crust, like chocolate chip or something. I figure it might work the same or just be insane all around? Or Brownie mix batter?


    • Rochelle Schultz says

      I do it the same way, just top it with plain cool whip. And if you really have a sweet tooth, shave a Hershey’s chocolate bar on top as well. You will still need to use powdered sugar to sweeten the cream cheese. My grandmother used to make this all of the time when I was a kid. It’s delicious!

  3. Trotter says

    This is almost identical to a desert that my wife’s family has made for many, many years… and that’s a good thing. The differences are no sugar in the crust, the chocolate and vanilla puddings are mixed together and use less milk than the package calls for (not sure of the exact amount, sorry), and they top it with pecan halves instead of shaved chocolate. Either way there are very seldom any leftovers when it is served because it is awesome.

  4. Marita says

    This originally was called “Better than Sex with Robert Redford” cake. Not many people know who that is now, so the name has been shortened.

    • Jessica says

      Better than Sex cake is different than this, Marita. The cake is a chocolate poke cake that you pour caramel into, top with toffee chips, top with whipped cream, then top with toffee and drizzles of chocolate and caramel. This might be a spin off of that dessert, but they are very different.

      • Lynnea says

        This is the same as what we called “better than sex” 20 -25 years ago. I’ve never heard of the one with a chocolate poke cake.

    • bonnie laclair frary says

      better than sex cake with robert redford is correct and sooooooo delish and id say better than sex but hey that is just me bwahahaaaa

  5. Cam says

    Will the cookie dough be too soft if i assemble and let sit in the fridge over night?is it better to only chill 2 hours?

  6. Mel says

    I’m currently making this and the crust ingredients look very dry – does milk need to be added to bring it all together??

  7. Jo-Ann says

    I remember this desert in the 90s it was real popular I had the recipe but lost it. It was so awesome eating this it just melted in your mouth like butter I am so happy to see the desert again it was awesome in the past& nowing how good it was it will be again. Hence the name. J

  8. says

    I am planning on using this recipe for my husband who is a diabetic. I am going to use almond flour (in place of all-purpose flour), coconut/palm sugar where it calls for regular granulated sugar and then again when it calls for the powdered sugar use the coconut/palm sugar (because it has a very low gylcemic index). I also use almond milk in place of regular milk for the puddings and use the sugar-free pudding mixes. I am using the sugar free cool whip. I use the 70% cacao chocolate on top.

  9. says

    For the cream cheese layer…it is marked as whipped cream or cool whip….are they interchangeable? I have both but never considered using either or. Which do you recommend?

  10. sarah says

    Just curious if someone could tell me if you use all purpose flour or self rising for the crust……Thanks in advance.

  11. Sharon says

    Could this be made diabetic friendly, using sugar free puddings, sugar free cool whip and skipping the powdered sugar in the cream cheese laver?

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