Sex in a Pan
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This Sex in a Pan has a crazy name for a dessert, but it’s one of the best desserts you’ll ever have! It’s mostly a delicious pudding dessert with a crunchy pecan crust.
Over 10 years ago I shared this amazing dessert with you and you guys loved it! It’s one of my most popular recipes here on the blog, even after all this time, and there’s a reason for that. It’s incredible, it’s decadent and it’s luscious.
Why Is It Called Sex In A Pan?
The name itself is hilarious for a dessert, and hundreds of you have commented on here telling me all the other names that this pudding dessert goes by. I think it’s called sex in a pan because it’s six layers and from six layers in a pan it got to sex in a pan.
A long time ago, before I was married, my friend came over on a weekend and made this dessert for me. I had no idea what it was, but she promised me I was going to love it so we made it.
We did not come up with the name, that is the name that was known to her and her mom had been making it for her for as long as she could remember. I think this dessert has really been around for decades but it’s still popular, not because of its name but because it really is incredible.
Why You’ll Love Sex In A Pan
- Easy Recipe: This simple but divine dessert is nearly effortless to make. By using a cheesecake-like crust, instant pudding, and whipped topping you don’t need to spend hours in the kitchen.
- Delicious Creamy Layers: With 5 yummy layers, sex in a pan does not disappoint! The pecan crust adds a nice crunch while the cream cheese filling, chocolate pudding, and vanilla pudding make the dessert a total show stopper.
- Perfect for Parties: This is a versatile dessert that you can serve at any event from children’s parties to dinner parties. And it’s the perfect crowd pleaser at potlucks!
- Pecans – You will need some chopped pecans for the crust. You could also use walnuts if you don’t have any pecans on hand.
- Sugar – A bit of white granulated sugar is used to sweeten the crust.
- Butter – The butter needs to be melted. Always use unsalted butter in cooking to control the amount of added salt unless a recipe states otherwise.
- Flour – I just use basic all purpose flour to make the crust.
- Cream Cheese – I love using Philadelphia cream cheese. It needs to be at room temperature for this recipe.
- Powdered Sugar – Also known as confectioner’s sugar or icing sugar. You need to sift out the lumps to ensure the cream cheese layer is super smooth.
- Cool Whip – Any brand of frozen whipped topping or whipped cream will work.
- Vanilla Pudding – I use instant vanilla pudding mix. You will need a couple of boxes.
- Milk – I always use cold whole milk to make the pudding.
- Chocolate Pudding – You will also need a box or two of your favorite instant chocolate pudding mix.
- Milk – Cold milk is needed to make the pudding. As mentioned, I always use whole milk.
- Cool Whip – Your favorite brand of whipped topping or whipped cream will do just fine.
- Shaved Chocolate – Used to garnish the whipped topping. You could also use a few mini chocolate chips if you like.
This amazing dessert may have a few steps, but it’s super easy to make! The instant pudding comes together in minutes and the crust is pretty effortless. Easy peasy!
First, preheat your oven temperature to 350°F (177°C) so that it is hot once the crust is made. Next, spray a 9×13 inch baking dish with nonstick cooking spray or grease it with oil.
To start, the crust needs to be made! Add the chopped pecans, sugar, melted butter, and flour to the bowl of a stand mixer. Then mix everything together until it’s fully combined.
Then transfer the crust mixture to the prepared baking dish and press it firmly into the bottom of the pan. You can use a glass to help flatten the mixture out evenly. Then place the crust into the preheated oven to bake for about 20 minutes. Allow the crust to fully cool in the pan when it is done.
While the crust is baking, make the vanilla and chocolate puddings according to the package instructions.
However, I only used 2 cups of milk instead of 3 so that my puddings came out firmer. So basically I only used ⅔ of the amount of milk that the directions called for. I did this because I find that thicker pudding helps the dessert to hold its shape better.
Now let’s whip together the cream cheese layer. Add the cream cheese, powdered sugar, and one cup of the cool whip to your stand mixer. Then whip everything together until it’s light and fluffy. You can also use a hand mixer if you prefer.
With all the layers made you can build the sex in a pan! Yet, the crust must be completely cool before you begin. Then spread the cream cheese mixture over the crust evenly followed by the vanilla pudding and then the chocolate pudding.
Try your best to make all the layers nice and even.
Now, top the dessert with one final layer of the remaining cool whip and a sprinkle of some shaved chocolate for garnish. Then put the sex in a pan in the fridge to set for at least a few hours before serving.
What Is Sex In A Pan?
Sex in a pan is a layered dessert. The bottom layer is the crust made with pecans, flour and butter. The next layer is a layer of cream cheese sweetened with powdered sugar and made fluffier with whipped cream. Then you have a layer of chocolate pudding, then another layer of vanilla pudding and top it off with whipping cream and then lastly you sprinkle it with chocolate. Does that not sound good?
And don’t worry about it looking perfect with perfect layers, this dessert is not about that. It will look sloppy with all the pudding and whipped cream layers. Nobody will care about how it looks like once they take a bite. It really is love at first bite.
I just had to share this wonderful dessert with you again because every single time I make it people fall in love with it and so many of them tell me it’s the best dessert they’ve ever had. Trust me, that’s the best compliment you can get for such a simple dessert. Have you guys had this before? Isn’t it to die for?
Expert Tips
- Sift the powdered sugar. No one wants to bite into a lump of powdered sugar. Sifting helps to ensure that the cream cheese layer is velvety smooth.
- Use less milk. Reduce the amount of milk used to make the pudding to make it a bit thicker. This will help the dessert maintain its shape when cut.
- Chill the dessert. You must chill the sex in a pan for at least a couple of hours to allow it time to set. If you don’t it will taste amazing but it will be a sloppy mess.
Storage
Leftover sex in a pan will keep for up to 4 days in the fridge or for up to 3 months in an airtight container in the freezer. Just let it thaw out in the fridge before serving, which should take about 6 to 8 hours.
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Sex in a Pan
Ingredients
Crust
- 1 cup pecans (chopped)
- 3 tablespoons granulated sugar
- ½ cup unsalted butter (melted)
- 1 cup all-purpose flour
Cream cheese layer
- 8 ounce cream cheese
- 1 cup powdered sugar (also known as icing sugar or confectioner's sugar, use 1/2 cup for less sweetness)
- 1 cup cool whip (or whipped cream)
Vanilla pudding
- 5.1 ounce instant vanilla pudding
- 2 cups milk
Chocolate Pudding
- 5.1 ounce instant chocolate pudding
- 2 cups milk
Toppings
- 2 cups cool whip (or whipped cream)
- shaved chocolate (optional)
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Instructions
- Preheat oven to 350°F.
- Spray a 9×13 inch baking dish with cooking spray.
- In a mixer mix all the crust ingredients together and press the mixture into the prepared baking dish.
- Bake it for about 20 minutes.
- Prepare the vanilla pudding as per the instructions on the package. As noted I used 2 cups of milk instead of the 3 cups on the package instructions to get a firmer pudding.
- Prepare the chocolate pudding as per the instructions on the package. As noted I used 2 cups of milk instead of the 3 cups on the package instructions to get a firmer pudding.
- In a mixer add the cream cheese, powdered sugar and the cup of whipped cream. Mix until light and fluffy.
- Let the crust cool. Spread the cream cheese mixture over the crust evenly. Spread the vanilla pudding over the cream cheese layer, then the chocolate pudding. Spread the whipped cream as the last layer then top with shaved chocolate if preferred.
- Refrigerate for a couple hours until it sets before serving.
Equipment
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Notes
- I used 2 cups of milk for my pudding, because I wanted a firmer pudding for the layers here, but feel free to use 3 cups of milk just as the instructions say.
- Sift the powdered sugar. No one wants to bite into a lump of powdered sugar. Sifting helps to ensure that the cream cheese layer is velvety smooth.
- Use less milk. Reduce the amount of milk used to make the pudding to make it a bit thicker. This will help the dessert maintain its shape when cut.
- Chill the dessert. You must chill the sex in a pan for at least a couple of hours to allow it time to set. If you don’t it will taste amazing but it will be a sloppy mess.
Nutrition Information
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why is your pudding in the photo so yellowy and not creamy looking?
Well it’s vanilla pudding so it’s pretty yellow and I used less milk to make it a more firm pudding as mentioned in the post.
My sister is allergic to nuts. Can I omit them?
Sure, or you can make an oreo cookie crust.
Was delicious! I used walnuts instead of pecans and was amazing! Lives up to its name!
Really excited to try this! Thanks for the recipe, making it now!!
No doubt this is a great dessert!
Excellent followed receipe exactly. No leftovers hit at potluck
This is an amazing recipe. My friend renamed it Chocolate Surprise When offering it to her children. I consider this a staple in the dessert category. Thanks for posting this recipe.
When I saw the photo, the yellow looked like a lemon layer. Wondering if anyone has ever tried substituting a lemon-curd type layer for the vanilla pudding layer and if it worked out?
Sounds delicious to me! I haven’t ever tried it but if you do please consider sharing how it went!
I am not a fan of chocolate. What would be a good substitute to go with the vanilla pudding.
Any pudding flavor would work, try pistachio or butterscotch, both really great substitutions.
Love this recipe! Had to make a variation this time, my oven element went out. So I used 1½ cups of finely chopped pecans, 2 cups of pecan shortbread cookies finely chopped and ½ cup mini chocolate chips mixed with ½ cup melted butter to make a crumb crust. My husband loved it!
Awesome recipe!!
My husbands favorite.
I garnished the top with toasted pecans
This is the best recipe of all the variations.
How many days ahead can it be made and stored in the fridge?
Oh you can make this about 5 days in advance, this will last in the fridge for about a week.
I have made this recipe before. It is amazing.
A family member has a food allergy. Can you suggest something in place of the pecans?
You can use oreo cookies crushed up, or graham crackers with a bit of butter and sugar for the crust.