Last updated on March 27th, 2018 at 05:45 pm
Sex in a Pan – crazy name for a dessert, but it’s one of the best desserts you’ll ever have, it’s mostly a pudding dessert with a crunchy pecan bottom crust.
Almost 5 years ago I shared this amazing dessert with you and you guys loved it! It’s one of my most popular recipes on Jo Cooks and there’s a reason for that. It’s incredible, it’s decadent and luscious. So here we are again and I thought it’s the perfect time to share this with you again with some updated pictures and a video. With Valentine’s day only a couple days away, I think this dessert will be spot on for that special day with a name like sex in a pan.
MY LATEST VIDEOSThe name itself is hilarious for a dessert, and hundreds of you have commented on here telling me all the other names that this pudding dessert goes by. I think it’s called sex in a pan because it’s six layers and from six layers in a pan it got it’s sex in a pan.
I remember a long time ago, before I was married, we’re talking almost 20 years ago, when I used to live on my own, one weekend my friend came over and made this dessert for me. I had no idea what it was, but she promised me I was going to love it so we made it. We did not come up with the name, that is the name that it was known to her and her mom had been making it for her for as long as she could remember. I think this dessert has really been around for decades but it still popular, not because of its name but because it really is incredible.
That first day we made this dessert I fell in love with it, I had never had anything like it before. It was so easy to make and so good. The bottom layer is the crust made with pecans, flour and butter, the next layer is a layer of cream cheese sweetened with powdered sugar and made fluffier with whipped cream. Then you have a layer of chocolate pudding, then another layer of vanilla pudding and top it off with whipping cream and then lastly you sprinkle it with chocolate. Does that not sound good?
And don’t worry about it looking perfect with perfect layers, this dessert is not about that. It will look sloppy with all the pudding and whipped cream layers. Nobody will care about how it looks like once they take a bite. It really is love at first bite.
I just had to share this wonderful dessert with you again because every single time I make it people fall in love with it and so many of them tell me it’s the best dessert they’ve ever had. Trust me, that’s the best compliment you can get for such a simple dessert. Have you guys had this before? Isn’t it to die for?
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If you guys love this recipe, and most importantly make it yourselves, please let us know. Take a picture and tag it #jocooks on Instagram so we can see it. I always love to see what you guys come up with!
HOW TO MAKE SEX IN A PAN
- 1 cup pecans chopped
- 3 tbsp granulated sugar
- 1/2 cup unsalted butter melted
- 1 cup all-purpose flour
- 8 oz cream cheese
- 1 cup icing sugar use 1/2 cup for less sweetness
- 1 cup cool whip or whipped cream
- 5.1 oz instant vanilla pudding
- 2 cups milk
- 5.1 oz instant chocolate pudding
- 2 cups milk
- 2 cups cool whip or whipped cream
- shaved chocolate optional
- Preheat oven to 350 F degrees.
- Spray a 9x13 inch baking dish with cooking spray.
- In a mixer mix all the crust ingredients together and press the mixture into the prepared baking dish.
- Bake it for about 20 minutes.
Prepare the vanilla pudding as per the instructions on the package. As noted I used 2 cups of milk instead of the 3 cups on the package instructions to get a firmer pudding.
Prepare the chocolate pudding as per the instructions on the package. As noted I used 2 cups of milk instead of the 3 cups on the package instructions to get a firmer pudding.
- In a mixer add the cream cheese, powdered sugar and the cup of whipped cream. Mix until light and fluffy.
Let the crust cool. Spread the cream cheese mixture over the crust evenly. Spread the vanilla pudding over the cream cheese layer, then the chocolate pudding. Spread the whipped cream as the last layer then top with shaved chocolate if preferred.
Refrigerate for a couple hours until it sets before serving.
I used 2 cups of milk for my pudding, because I wanted a firmer pudding for the layers here, but feel free to use 3 cups of milk just as the instructions say.
Please keep in mind that nutritional information is a rough estimate and can vary greatly based on products used.
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If I was making this for someone with nut allergies, what would you recommend for a crust substitute
You can skip the walnuts, or do an oreo cookie crust instead.
Is this desert safe for diabetics?
You can lower the sugars considerably by using sugar free pudding mix, sold in the same aisle as the regular packages.
Try ground black walnuts in the crust for an OMG treat
Hi
I made this dessert twice but both times my layers get mixed up what mistake I’m making though the taste is so good and everyone loved it
Please guide when i layer cream cheese the vanilla pudding on it it sinks in and can’t have a layer like yours 🙈😞
Thanks
I usually use less milk when making my puddings so that they are firmer. For example the package asks for 3 cups and I only use 2. Have you done this?
One of our favorites and an excellent potluck dessert!
Hi,
Did you at one point in time post this recipe with different measurements?
I had a copy I was working off of from your website and it had 2 pkgs of cream cheese..
Just curious, thanks!
Hi Ali! It was posted a long time ago but it shouldn’t have had 2 packages of cream, however it shouldn’t really matter. You’ll just end up with a thicker cream cheese layer.
What could you use in place of the pecans for the crust?
Any kind of nut would work. Or you could do an oreo cookie crust.
I do not like cream cheese. Can I just use whipped cream and confectioner’s sugar? What about just whippped topping alone?
I mean that layer could really be anything, so feel free to even skip it, since there’s whipped cream on top.
Holy moly, this is freaking delicious! My husband made this on Sunday and it was even better on Monday!! Thank you so much!
I made this tonight in a springform pan so far so good! Looks amazing. Do you think i can safely release my springform once the layers set or should i freeze first
I make this dessert but I call it Chocolate Delight. It is the exact same but with one difference, instead of grating the chocolate on top I would get a Hershey bar and shave the side and make chocolate curls and also add some lightly chopped pecans on top. It is such a yummy dessert…I need to make it again…it’s been a really long time. Thanks for reminding me lol.
I wanted the crust to be gluten free for the pudding sass. Hope you can help me., been having trouble finding one g/ f
Hi, do you use US or UK measurements? I need to convert everything to grams before I can start baking 🙂
Thanks!
US measurements, but below the ingredients in the recipe there are two links, one that says metric, just click on that and all the ingredients will convert to metric.
Thank you so much. I looked over the link 🙂
If use whipping cream do you whip it by itself first
Yes, for sure.
Hi there…I’ll definitely try this recipe as it looks SO good! And please, ignore the comments about its name. I find it personally ridiculous that some are offended that it’s called “sex in a pan”…like people please! take a grip and relax! I’ll let you know how mine turns out for sure. Question: can freeze it? I’m alone so I don’t wish for it to go to waste if I don’t eat it fast enough.
Thank you!
Odette 😀
Absolutely! I also freeze mine all the time, just wrap it up tightly with some plastic wrap. If your pan had a lid it would be even better. 🙂
Sorry..I just saw in your comments that it is powdered sugar!!
Is icing sugar..powdered sugar?
Yes they are one and the same. 🙂